In recent times, we have witnessed a heartbreaking rise in suicides among schoolchildren. It’s a phenomenon that has left many parents, educators, and society at large grappling with questions: Why are they doing this? What is driving such young souls to such extreme despair?
Recently, I encountered a 9-year-old child who articulated a deep sense of worthlessness about her existence. Her innocent words reflected not just her pain but the gravity of the crisis we are facing as a society. It revealed the fragility of young minds struggling with internal narratives that they cannot yet articulate or understand.
Suicidal ideation, though alarming, serves a purpose. It is not a call to end life but a desperate cry for transformation—a longing to escape the limitations of a story that feels suffocating, overwhelming, and inescapable.
Understanding Suicidal Ideation
At its core, suicidal ideation is not truly about wanting to die. It’s about a part of the self—rooted in pain, fear, or limitation—that needs to be released. In my experience working with the subconscious mind, I’ve found that such thoughts often stem from narratives of inadequacy, worthlessness, or rejection. These narratives, although deeply painful, are not the truth of who we are.
When a child or an adult reaches the point of considering suicide, it’s crucial to understand that they are not asking to end life itself. Instead, they are asking for the life they are currently experiencing to change. They are yearning for a rebirth—a liberation from the version of themselves that feels trapped.
A Path to Healing
When I worked with the 9-year-old, I focused on helping her see beyond her current narrative. I guided her to recognize that the feelings of worthlessness were not the essence of who she is. Instead, they were stories imposed by circumstances, expectations, or internalized beliefs.
Through therapy, she began to understand that the desire to “disappear” was not a rejection of life but a subconscious yearning to let go of the narrative that was suffocating her true self. This is the essence of transformation: to “die” to the old story so that the greater, freer, and truer self can emerge.
What Can We Do?
Here are some steps that parents, teachers, and caregivers can take to address this issue:
1. Create Safe Spaces: Encourage open conversations where children feel heard without judgment.
2. Recognize the Signs: Look for behavioral changes, withdrawal, or expressions of hopelessness. Specific courses on how to identify such children in schools may help.
3. Reframe the Narrative: Help children understand that their thoughts of worthlessness or despair are not who they are but temporary stories they can change, and empower to do so.
4. Seek Professional Help: Early intervention with a therapist to access the subconscious or counselor can provide children with tools to manage their emotions and rewrite their narratives.
5. Model Resilience: Show children how to navigate struggles and embrace the idea of growth through challenges.
A Message to Those Struggling
If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, know this: You do not truly want to die. What you want is for the story that’s suffocating you to end. Your essence—the part of you that is full of potential, hope, and life—wants to be born.
Life is not about perfection or the absence of pain. It’s about transformation. Each time you let go of a limiting belief or a painful narrative, a new, freer version of you is born. That’s not the end of life—it’s the most incredible expression of it.
So don’t take your life. Let go of the story that no longer serves you. Seek help. Speak up. The world needs the unique light only you can bring.
Conclusion
In our fast-paced, achievement-driven world, let us remember to slow down and truly connect with one another. Let us remind our children—and ourselves—that our worth is not tied to success, perfection, or external validation.
Every life is a story of constant transformation. And the chapters yet to be written hold infinite possibilities for joy, love, and growth.
Let’s ensure that our children never feel like they have to write “The End” before their story has truly begun.
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