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Why are you childish? What’s it with your “Inner Child”?

The notion of the "inner child" takes us on a profound journey into the depths

of our past, uncovering the emotional and psychological remnants of our younger selves. It's like revisiting the part of us that never fully grew up to handle the complexities of adulthood.

This inner child represents the emotional facets of our minds that still feel the echoes of our past, often drowning out our rational thinking.

Why does this happen?

Because, during our early years, we encountered experiences that restricted our ability to express ourselves freely as children. Instead, we felt like we didn't get what we deserved, leaving us with a sense of unworthiness and unease and unsafe. These unmet needs left a mark on our nervous system, creating a trauma that, if unaddressed, can continue to shape our lives through fear-driven reactions.

Understanding the Inner Child

Our inner child isn't a tangible presence but rather a psychological concept that embodies our childhood selves. It embodies the emotional residue of our early experiences and how they still affect us as adults. These experiences, whether joyful or traumatic, but our inner interpretation lay the groundwork for our self-esteem, beliefs, and emotional responses.

1. Emotions Overriding Logic

One of the most profound aspects of the inner child is how emotions can sometimes overpower rational thinking. Unresolved emotions from our childhood, especially those connected to trauma or unmet needs, often dictate our adult reactions. These emotional triggers can make us react as if we're still children trying to make sense of the pain and discomfort we felt back then.

2. The Impact of Childhood Experiences

Our childhood experiences are the building blocks of our inner child. Positive introspection of experiences can nurture a healthy inner child, fostering emotional resilience and self-assuredness. Conversely, negative interpretations of experiences like from neglect, abuse, or unmet emotional needs can leave scars on our inner child, echoing into our adulthood.

3. Leaving an Imprint on Our Nervous System

The emotional remnants of our past experiences leave an indelible mark on our nervous system. Traumatic memories become etched into our being, influencing our thoughts, behavior, and reactions. The fear-based coping mechanisms we developed as children often linger into adulthood.

Healing the Inner Child

Acknowledging and healing our inner child is a crucial step towards personal growth, emotional well-being, and a more fulfilling adult life.

1. Self-Reflection and Awareness

Begin by delving into your past, which you may need professional help because most traumas are purposefully buried to the unconscious parts of the mind, for identifying pivotal moments that may have wounded your inner child. Reflect on how these experiences continue to shape your life today.

2. Compassion and Self-Love

Extend the same compassion and love to yourself that you would offer to a wounded child. Nourish and reassure your inner child, reminding them that they are safe and valued.

The key is not to wait till some one values you. You can do it yourself as a grownup.

3. Seek Support

Therapists experienced in inner child work can provide invaluable guidance and support on your journey to healing. They employ techniques such as inner child therapy and meditation to address and soothe emotional wounds. To address deep hidden emotions, you may need to address subconscious mind to get a result for example in a physical medical condition.


Our inner child represents a profound aspect of our psyche, carrying the versions of emotional imprints of our past experiences. To lead a more balanced and fulfilling adult life, we must acknowledge and heal our inner child and let it growup and mature.

By using deep learning therapy and understanding the emotional triggers and wounds from our past, and by leaching the mind at a subconscious level, we can swiftly cultivate self-compassion, self-love, and emotional resilience. Through this process, we can release the fear-driven reactions of our inner child and step into a brighter adulthood future marked by greater emotional well-being.

So what are you planning to do about your inner child this week?

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